being in love is tough..being out of love is even worse. not knowing whut love is, well, u're half human.hehehehe. i'm not just talking about a relationship between man and woman alone..its about loving what u're doin', self-love, loving others around u and loving life.
love, more than effort, it needs constant focus. we've encountered hundreds of people who are so much in 'love' with their job and very bad at channelling the love to another human being. its not a flaw. when we have passion on something, more than anything else constant focus determines whether we'll be successful or otherwise. when we're in love with someone, we put focus on working out the love but little that we know, its actually a process. process takes a longer time than assignments or any other task given with certain datelines. of course the theory doesnt evolve around my experience of being in love and being out of love alone. like any other couples, my fiance and i went thru moments when we're so much in love and phases when we're completely hate each other simply not knowing if the love is just an illusion. he often says he's in a phase of having no feelings.. not in love yadaa..yadaa. i dont blame him per se. if one is weak, another has to be strong, aight. i keep reminding myself that succesful people cannot succeed without distractions. his unstable emotion is my distraction.
i bet most of us hate Carrie Bradshaw simply because she's too naive. well i hate her for one reason. not everything about love evolve around emotion. everything is all about science even emotion. Science tells u that love or passion needs focus. u want something, u have be able to focus and constantly doing it because as mentioned, its a process. focussing on what we want when we're in love (be it self love or loving others or loving the job we have) is to know our target. if we dont, we'll be all over..attemting at everything and end up with nothing..perhaps taking a longer time than we're supposed to. i'm blessed that i'm able to do things that i'm good at and loving it, wake up every morning looking around the room and loving the stuff that i have (mostly my handbangs and shoes), having the man i love everyday (though feel like strangling him at times for being insensitive but then again, men are dogs..) and most importantly, having people who loves me and be able to love them be it friends, family or simply just people around... it hit me that in order to know how to celebrate the love is to know how to focus on it. how? knowing what we really want and to know that every action counts, every steps matters.
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